15 Oct FE: Courage to speak
“The most courageous act is still to think for yourself. Aloud.” ~Coco Chanel
This week we’ll take a closer look at the topic of speaking up. Creating a safe space where people are encouraged to stop, listen and examine their behavior without needing to defend themselves is an important step in promoting change.
What can you do when your voice is ignored or judged without reason? When you are interrupted, ignored, or misunderstood, instead of getting angry, try the following techniques to shed light on the behavior without punishing those who brushed you off. You still might be chastised for calling attention to the behavior, but people will hear you anyway. In my experience, when you let people know that what they said or did felt dismissive, their behavior shifts over time.
Ask for what you need.
When interrupted, say the name of the transgressor to get their attention and then let them know you would like to ‘finish up’ your thought. Or put your hand up and say, “Please let me finish my thought. Then I’m happy to hear yours.” Read on https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/wander-woman/201807/what-you-should-do-when-you-are-interrupted-or-ignored
When Senator Kamala Harris wielded the “Mr. Vice President…I’m speaking” phrase, she followed these guidelines. That moment resonates with everyone who has been interrupted and spoken over on video calls, in conference rooms, during speeches or debates. This is not meant to get political. It’s a universal lesson in speaking up and handling interruptions professionally.
Check out more of our wisdom for panelists and speakers: http://thewishwall.org/desideri/fe-spark-creativity-with-words.
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Akasha Garnier for #TheWishwall
Author, Brand Expert, Filmmaker